Not on the same page

For the past few days V and I have been on the outs, reno-wise. The cause is very simple - I want the progress to go faster, he doesn’t agree = frustration. Don’t get me wrong, we are on the same page most of the times and when it comes to important decisions, but when it comes to timing – apples and oranges.

Seeing happy couples renovating together and reporting progress almost daily, doesn’t help either. I’m pretty sure what most of them won’t tell you, is that things don’t always go cheek to cheek. Quite the opposite actually, what one sees as “must finish this asap, can’t live in this mess”, another one interprets as “it will get done, sooner or later, the mess doesn’t really bother me”.

Teamwork is a very fragile concept for couples who renovate by themselves, my friends, and some times there isn’t any at all.

Take our living room for example, it’s been started more than a week ago, and there hasn’t been any progress whatsoever. The company we ordered the patio door from, seemed to have lost our address and all my attempts to convince V to inquire (the installer is one of his contacts) are met with a very grumpy grim.

Deep breath. I also keep telling myself that I’m a woman (I know it sounds ridiculous, but sometimes I really need to remind that to myself), therefore, I should know better, I should act smarter, I should be more patient. And yes, I tried to see things from my hubby’s perspective, unfortunately, it didn't work. If anything, it only made me more frustrated and not just with our situation but with how men see things in general (ok, maybe some men). I also realized that I do want to live in pretty surroundings, I do want to start decorating, I do want to see PROGRESS and I demand to be listened to!

There. My contribution to the women’s rights movement.

Wait, I think I hear a power tool being started…

P.S. Inspite of our reno disagreements, we've been witnessing this super cute hard-working squirrel for days now. All he/she does, is running to our pine tree on top of our fence, collecting pine cones and then running back to his nest with one pine cone at a time all day long! Adorable and totally my kind of dedication to the process:)